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  Tuning Into Recovery: Old Interests Returning After Trauma

  April 26, 2026 - By Andrew Pumpelly

  There’s a moment in recovery that nobody really prepares you for. It’s not the anger, and it’s not the grief. It’s not even the relief. It’s something quieter than that—the moment you catch yourself thinking, “Wait… I used to love this.” And it doesn’t show up as a memory. It…

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  Anger Isn’t the Opposite of Healing

  April 9, 2026 - By Andrew Pumpelly

  One of the strangest expectations placed on people healing from trauma is this idea that recovery should look peaceful. Calm.Forgiving.Soft-spoken. As if healing automatically means becoming endlessly understanding about the people who hurt you. But many Adult Children of Narcissists discover something uncomfortable along the way: Healing often comes with…

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  Music as a Mirror: Stabbing Westward’s “Save Yourself” and the Moment the Rescue Mission Ended

  April 7, 2026 - By Andrew Pumpelly

  Some songs hit you differently once you’ve lived long enough to understand what they were really saying. For years, Save Yourself by Stabbing Westward was one of those songs for me. I always felt it. But I didn’t fully understand why. Not until after Judgment Day. Not until the illusion…

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  When Stability Was the Trauma

  March 31, 2026 - By Andrew Pumpelly

  There’s something I didn’t expect after going No Contact. I expected grief.I expected anger.I expected relief mixed with sadness. What I didn’t expect… was feeling destabilized. Because here’s the uncomfortable truth I’ve slowly come to understand: As unhealthy as the relationship was, my mother had been the most consistent thing…

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  The Day You Realize You Were Never the Problem

  March 19, 2026 - By Andrew Pumpelly

  There’s a moment in recovery that doesn’t arrive loudly. No announcement.No dramatic confrontation.No sudden breakthrough everyone else can see. It usually comes quietly. Almost casually. A thought crosses your mind — and once it does, you can never go back. What if… it was never me? For many Adult Children…

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  You Don’t Miss Them — You Miss Who You Needed Them To Be

  March 5, 2026 - By Andrew Pumpelly

  One of the hardest realizations after going No Contact isn’t anger. It isn’t even grief in the traditional sense. It’s confusion. Because sometimes — even after everything — you still feel something that looks suspiciously like missing them. And that can mess with your head. You start wondering: If they…

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  Triangulation: The Narcissist’s Favorite Weapon

  March 3, 2026 - By Andrew Pumpelly

  There’s a moment many Adult Children of Narcissists eventually recognize — sometimes years later — when scattered memories suddenly connect. You realize conflicts didn’t just happen. They were engineered. One of the most common tools narcissistic personalities use is something called triangulation. And once you see it, you can’t unsee…

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  The Perfect Storm: 18 Months Post-Judgment Day

  March 1, 2026 - By Andrew Pumpelly

  I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting lately. Not just on my own story — but on timing. Because looking back, it’s becoming harder to ignore something that feels almost impossible to see while you’re living through it: My life didn’t unravel because of one event. It was a perfect…

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  I’ll Take My Bacon Crispy, Please

  February 26, 2026 - By Andrew Pumpelly

  Today I turn 51. Which means somewhere in my brain, I’m staring at a breakfast plate with bacon arranged into the number 51. If you know, you know. Last year, at 50, I found myself standing in the wreckage of the Mom-pocalypse.This year, at 51, I’m just… eating breakfast calmly.…

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  When the Chaos Finally Makes Sense

  February 24, 2026 - By Andrew Pumpelly

  For most of my life, chaos was just… normal. I didn’t call it trauma.I didn’t call it instability.I didn’t call it survival. I called it life. Broken homes.Sudden moves.Emotional volatility.Unspoken threats.Secrets that didn’t make sense until decades later.Responsibilities placed on me long before I had the nervous system to carry…