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  You Don’t Miss Them — You Miss Who You Needed Them To Be

  March 5, 2026 - By Andrew Pumpelly

  One of the hardest realizations after going No Contact isn’t anger. It isn’t even grief in the traditional sense. It’s confusion. Because sometimes — even after everything — you still feel something that looks suspiciously like missing them. And that can mess with your head. You start wondering: If they…

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  Triangulation: The Narcissist’s Favorite Weapon

  March 3, 2026 - By Andrew Pumpelly

  There’s a moment many Adult Children of Narcissists eventually recognize — sometimes years later — when scattered memories suddenly connect. You realize conflicts didn’t just happen. They were engineered. One of the most common tools narcissistic personalities use is something called triangulation. And once you see it, you can’t unsee…

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  The Perfect Storm: 18 Months Post-Judgment Day

  March 1, 2026 - By Andrew Pumpelly

  I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting lately. Not just on my own story — but on timing. Because looking back, it’s becoming harder to ignore something that feels almost impossible to see while you’re living through it: My life didn’t unravel because of one event. It was a perfect…

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  I’ll Take My Bacon Crispy, Please

  February 26, 2026 - By Andrew Pumpelly

  Today I turn 51. Which means somewhere in my brain, I’m staring at a breakfast plate with bacon arranged into the number 51. If you know, you know. Last year, at 50, I found myself standing in the wreckage of the Mom-pocalypse.This year, at 51, I’m just… eating breakfast calmly.…

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  When the Chaos Finally Makes Sense

  February 24, 2026 - By Andrew Pumpelly

  For most of my life, chaos was just… normal. I didn’t call it trauma.I didn’t call it instability.I didn’t call it survival. I called it life. Broken homes.Sudden moves.Emotional volatility.Unspoken threats.Secrets that didn’t make sense until decades later.Responsibilities placed on me long before I had the nervous system to carry…

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  The Letter I’ll Never Send

  January 29, 2026 - By Andrew Pumpelly

  To the woman who called herself my mother, You spent a lifetime convincing me you were the victim. You wore that mask so tightly you almost convinced me, too. For years I believed your pain was my fault — that if I just loved harder, explained better, or tried one…

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  “Fuck It, I Give Up” Wasn’t Weakness — It Was the Only Sane Response

  January 22, 2026 - By Andrew Pumpelly

  Let’s get something straight. If your life has been shaped by lies, emotional whiplash, shifting rules, and the constant requirement to adapt just to survive… “Fuck it, I give up” is not a failure.It’s a rational response. Because at some point, continuing to try becomes self-harm. You Can’t Win a…

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  The Walter White Threshold: Why Reinvention Hits So Hard After 50

  December 30, 2025 - By Andrew Pumpelly

  I’ve been joking lately that hitting 50 made me feel a little like Walter White — just without the urge to build a meth empire. But the more I sit with that comparison, the more I realize it’s actually… not a joke at all. There’s something real — something psychological,…

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  A No Contact Christmas: What the Holidays Feel Like After Cutting Ties With a Narcissistic Parent

  December 25, 2025 - By Andrew Pumpelly

  For most of my life, Christmas came with a low-grade dread I didn’t have language for. On the surface, it looked like a normal holiday — lights, food, family photos. Underneath, my nervous system knew better. Holidays weren’t about joy or connection. They were tests. Performances. Emotional obstacle courses where…

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  Faith & Trauma — Part 4: Why I Chose No Contact — And Why I Still Pray for Her

  December 21, 2025 - By Andrew Pumpelly

  There’s a version of the No Contact story that gets told a lot. It’s the anger version. And don’t get me wrong — I absolutely have every right to be angry. What was done to me was despicable.The lies.The manipulation.The threats.The decades of deception.The refusal to tell the truth even…