After everything in my life finally came into the light — the lies, the manipulation, the emotional chaos — I had to face a hard truth: I had confused patience with permission. And Scripture never called me to confuse the two. Peace Has Limits in the Bible One verse used…
“No Contact” is one of the most misunderstood concepts in the trauma-recovery world. Some people think it’s: Others romanticize it as: Neither of those views is accurate. No Contact is neither a weapon nor a miracle cure. It is a boundary of last resort — and sometimes, it is the…
Financial abuse doesn’t always look like someone stealing from you. Sometimes it looks like: This is called a dependency cycle — and it often hides in families for decades without being named. What a Dependency Cycle Actually Is A dependency cycle forms when someone: Over time, this becomes identity. Not:“I’m…
I come from a family where faith runs deep. On my biological father’s side especially, Christianity isn’t just a belief — it’s a way of life. And like many people raised around Scripture, one verse came up again and again growing up: “Honor your father and mother.” — Exodus 20:12…
For most of my life, I thought gratitude only came after everything was healed, settled, and safe. Now I know better. Gratitude is what grows in the middle of the ashes — after the unmasking, after the collapse, after the truth burns everything down and you’re still standing. Today is…
There’s a part of the Missouri story I don’t talk about much — not because it’s dramatic or explosive, but because the shame around it lingered long after the dust settled. It’s the part where my daughter told me she was pregnant. November 13th, 2023. I remember where I was…
—a reflection on my first “accidental” no-contact break Most people assume my No Contact journey started in 2024, when the truth finally blew the doors off my life. But in reality, the first crack in the system happened years earlier—long before I knew what narcissism was, long before I had…
What It’s Like Talking to a Narcissistic Parent After You Finally See the Truth There’s a strange and disorienting phase that happens after the moment of “unmasking” — the point where the narcissistic parent you’ve known your entire life suddenly becomes transparent. For me, that moment arrived on Mother’s Day…
A Trauma-Informed Reflection on the Morning Everything Finally Snapped June 7, 2024 There are moments in trauma recovery that don’t look like healing at all.They don’t look strong.They don’t look empowered.And they definitely don’t look like clarity. They look like collapse. For me, that moment was June 7th, 2024 —…
(And Why It Was the Most Loving Choice I’ve Ever Made) Going No Contact with a parent isn’t a decision you make lightly. It isn’t impulsive. It isn’t done out of anger, spite, or immaturity. It’s the kind of decision you reach only after a lifetime of trying everything else…