There’s a version of the No Contact story that gets told a lot. It’s the anger version. And don’t get me wrong — I absolutely have every right to be angry. What was done to me was despicable.The lies.The manipulation.The threats.The decades of deception.The refusal to tell the truth even…
Been rereading Pete Walker’s Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, and one line hit me harder than it ever has before: he says cPTSD healing often looks like three steps forward, two steps back — and that grieving a lifetime of trauma commonly takes 2–3 years. I don’t know who…
There’s a part of my story I don’t talk about often — not because I’m hiding it, but because I needed enough distance from the chaos to see it clearly. When the truth about my mother began unraveling —the DNA revelation, the hoarding, the manipulation, the collapse of my identity,…
I was raised in an extremely conservative expression of Christianity — the Church of Christ. I’m not here to bash that tradition. There are good people there.Sincere people.Faithful people. But inside my family system, church didn’t feel like refuge. It felt like performance. Who I Thought I Was Performing For…
On the internet lately, No Contact gets discussed like a hashtag.A concept.A brand of liberation.A generational identity marker. And listen — I’m genuinely grateful for that shift. I truly am.Language saves lives.Early awareness changes trajectories. But it’s important to say this clearly: No Contact didn’t begin with Millennials or Gen…
After everything in my life finally came into the light — the lies, the manipulation, the emotional chaos — I had to face a hard truth: I had confused patience with permission. And Scripture never called me to confuse the two. Peace Has Limits in the Bible One verse used…
“No Contact” is one of the most misunderstood concepts in the trauma-recovery world. Some people think it’s: Others romanticize it as: Neither of those views is accurate. No Contact is neither a weapon nor a miracle cure. It is a boundary of last resort — and sometimes, it is the…
I come from a family where faith runs deep. On my biological father’s side especially, Christianity isn’t just a belief — it’s a way of life. And like many people raised around Scripture, one verse came up again and again growing up: “Honor your father and mother.” — Exodus 20:12…
There’s a moment from my daughter’s wedding that keeps resurfacing in my mind — not because it ruined the day, not because it carried malice, but because it revealed something deep about how invisible trauma can be to people who haven’t lived through it. During the rehearsal, I met the…